About Nice guys, random thoughts

First thing first, its important to put in context of what i think are nice guys. So that way we are on same page. Nice guy to me is someone, who is confused by women and afraid to take a step without getting approval from that woman first. In fact, as time passes, the severity of being nice guy becomes even more acute, as they over think every (real or hypothetical) interaction with a woman. By severity, i mean being in their own head. Its very hard to be creative human being, when there is fear of taking a step around woman, so they start to tippy toe.

I do not know if thats good or bad, but it certainly current condition of dating. Where guys ask, but if she doesn't like that i say? never ending concern about what woman will think. To that i have only one answer, yes, but what if you dont like what she says. Why not listen first? It is trully vice versa experience, and not one way street where guy has to please.

As far as dating coach and pick up community, while it certanly have taken great strides from its new born form, it is still far and away only hap hazard growth at best. There are three reasons for it. One, many guys still think that dating skill is purely inheretant, and it will come to them sooner or later and so they shine improving their dating skill conciously (women on the other hand, truly polish their dating skills to almost art, but no one talks about it.) Second reason, people still dont belive that this change is possible. Third, men assume that it is monipulative, someone has to lose for another to win (media tend to concentrate on this one). Sadly, there is some truth to the later argument, due to the ways some puas teach more manipulative methods. These 3 reasons make up majoroity of reasons for slow movement toward majority of single guy population . There is fourth invisible reason, and thats lack of social approval and lack of political correctnes, everything should be fair, media screams. They don't care that there are millions of single guys, who feel like shit and dont know what to do about it.

Unlike online dating, or speed dating, both of which enjoyed a superb growth, i am noticing significant slow down in growth of interest about pick up. The reasons i listed above are explanation to it. Lack of political correctness is the hidden and biggest road block. Here is an example, Goth music and style, it has following but its not cool and had bad stigma, therefore while in its own nitch there are famous singers, clubs, music, etc. It has very little reach into general public. This is a rought example, but it somewhat comperable analogy.